Archive for March 12th, 2008
Posted on March 12, 2008. Filed under: Butdoisay TRUE STORIES |
Clay and Liz
Ages 26 and 22, married 3 years, but been together 20 years
Business man and Nurse
Trouble in Paradise
Liz: “There was a time when Clay was so depressed, that business was not going on so well and finance was also scarce. We had both bitter feelings about that, it was difficult to pay some bills, and that was not a good feeling at all. Financial problems, always affects relationships and one has to be strong enough to overlook them.
Clay: “It was some years ago before we decided to get married. Life was tough, but we tolerated every obstacle that was coming our way. “We had really a tough time, but I had never thought at any time that I never loved her.”
A More Perfect Union
Clay: “I decided to change business, since I knew and I was positive that it could also change our lives, I did, and as we continue to enjoy every little fruit and income we get, I believe I also fall in love everyday, and I do not intend to let any other obstacle come between us.
Liz: “You may wonder, why is she so much in love? The answer is, I was well raised, with a strict mother who taught us to obey people, not only men but both sexes. I was taught to be patient and tolerant, never jump into ill decisions, even if approched by anybody about my husband. I was also taught that, communication and respect is very much essential in a family or relationship, learn to communicate with your other half and also learn to understand him, give him the freedom he desires and your relationship will last forever. He will never go anywhere else because Home is always the best!!!
Clay: “Marriage is the best one can get. Even if its always difficult in the beginning since you have tied the note, you’ve always got to keep it working through thick and thin. You have just moved in to living together and its like you are totally strangers in your behaviours.”You have got to stay put and be patient to learn the other partners behaviour and I believe love will just take its course.” And how does your love go???
Clay Onyango
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David and Renee
Ages 44 and 43, married 20 years
Philosophy professor and teacher
Trouble in Paradise
David: “There’s this mythology to marriage about two becoming one. But I have always believed in personal time. I wanted to go out with friends, take a trip, or lie on the beach by myself. Early on, this was a point of tension. The assumption was that I was off girl watching. And I resented that because it wasn’t the case at all. It caused a great deal of bickering, and it took us years to work through it.”
A More Perfect Union
Renee: “I had to learn what to let go of. I realized, what’s so bad about David going to Miami for a few days without me? Is he going to come home? Yes. Is he going to be relaxed? Yes. Will I benefit from that? Absolutely. And he’ll know that I trust him, and he’ll respect me more. I realized the time would come when I wanted the same and he would give me my space.”
David: “And I encourage it—go partying, go dancing with friends. Spending time apart doesn’t mean the marriage is bad; it just means that you care about each other enough to let the other person be who she is and enjoy her life—and you don’t have to be in it all the time.”
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Justine and Joseph “Reverend Run”
Ages 40 and 41, married 11 years
Stars of the MTV reality series Run’s House
Trouble in Paradise
Run: “You have to learn to let the other person be right. When arguments get nasty, the one who got the nastiest has to give the most energy to heal the other person’s heart. Divorce happens when you hit a stalemate, when you’re locking horns. Somebody has to swallow the pride and say, basically, ‘I’m wrong.'”
A More Perfect UnionJustine: “We go to a marriage class at our church. Everybody shares what they’re going through, and you hear how other people deal with things. You get things out in the open that you didn’t know you felt, or your husband didn’t know you felt.”
Run: “One thing we learned is that the more you make love, the closer you feel. You have to break through the feelings of ‘We’re not happy together, I don’t want to make love.’ Because if you make love, for some reason it brings you spiritually closer. The arguing will stop and you’ll be happier. It’s one reason we’re calm with each other. … I know that no matter what my wife is mad about, I can hug her and she is going to respond to my love. If we’re having a dark moment, it’s a dark moment together, and when we come out of it, we’re both standing in the light.”
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Mai and Brian
Ages 60 and 63, married 36 years
Teacher’s assistant and investment adviser
Trouble in Paradise
Mai: “There was a time when Brian was depressed, and he’d come home and pour himself a vodka every night. We had a big fight about that.”
Brian: “It was just a few years ago. We were as close to cracking as we’d ever been. We had a real nasty snap, and I thought I didn’t love her.”
A More Perfect UnionBrian: “I reached the end of the line and I said, ‘I do love you, and I’m not going to drink anymore.’ Sometimes you stay together because you don’t leave. That sounds like such a simple thing, but it’s the bottom line.”
Mai: “You may wonder, ‘What happened to the man I married? He had so much good in him once.’ So instead of packing up and leaving, you try to find that part again. I deal with hard times by looking back at the man I first fell in love with. That’s how I check myself—because I respect Brian the way I did the day I married him. Even if he doesn’t seem to be the same man at the moment, I know those things I fell in love with—his courage, his honesty—are still inside him.”
Brian: “Marriage is like a warm gas stove. Even if the burners aren’t on all the time, you’ve always got to keep the pilot light lit. You have to go back to that, back to the beginning.”
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Nancy Kasera, 38, of Thomasville, has been charged with first-degree child cruelty in the death of her daughter. Police said Kasera called 911 from a travel center in LaGrange, Ga., reporting that the girl wasn’t breathing.
A Georgia coroner who performed an autopsy Monday said the girl’s body had a “horrendous amount of injuries that ranged from healed and healing wounds to recent injuries.” Authorities said the injuries were indicative of “long-term ongoing severe physical abuse.” Davidson County deputies executed a search warrant at Kasera’s Thomasville home and discovered a crime scene consistent with human trauma, Troup County deputies said. Deputies said the girl’s death happened at the home in Thomasville and Davidson County deputies were planning to extradite Kasera and charge her with her daughter’s death. Another 8-year-old daughter was also discovered in Kasera’s vehicle. She has been placed in the custody of Georgia child services personnel. Kasera, who is from Kenya and in the country on a VISA, was being held without bond in a Troup County jail. The victim’s name was not released.
Butdoisay comment> Learn to love your Children, whatever the case!!!
By reliable source.
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CheckMate or CheckBlood?
On the day that Francis Muthaura, the head of the civil service made his controversial government clarification statement, Prime Minister designate Raila Odinga’s security was withdrawn for a few hours. Mere coincidence?
Ambassador Francis Muthaura waiting to take instructions from the only man he receives instructions from. P.S. Where did the duly existed first lady go?On Sunday, the same day that President Mwai Kibaki and Raila Odinga were seen on the golf course together, the Kenyan military were assembling for the biggest operation in the history of our military since the failed 1982 coup attempt. Mere coincidence? Two days later, (Tuesday) reports started trickling in of fresh skirmishes in Laikipia and Molo. For obvious reasons, this news is being downplayed. Mere coincidence?Official sources have admitted that the military operation in the Mt Elgon area is likely to move to other areas in the Rift Valley where we have seen violence, like Kuresoi, the border between Sotik and Borabu and Laikipia where fresh skirmishes have already broken out. Mere coincidence?
Concerning Raila Odinga’s security detail and motorcade, the police after hours of stone silence yesterday, (probably waiting to “hear from above”) issued a detailed statement to the press about the PM’s security detail having a permanent station at Rongai Police Station. So which police station is the president’s security detail permanently based in? The whole idea was to give the impression that the Prime Minister designate Raila’s security has been “beefed up” (whatever that means). No explanation was given for the constant change of Raila’s security personnel. The police only said that “the confusion” would stop when Raila’s security detail had a permanent base. Aii! You mean the police are admitting that there was confusion in Raila’s security arrangements? That’s a bombshell because confusion in Kibaki’s security detail would be a very serious matter and since the Prime Minister is supposed to share power with the president, the same can be said about Raila’s security.But what is of even much bigger concern are the security operations involving the military in the Rift Valley…By Kumekucha
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