Relationships In Diaspora…

Another topic that affects us in diaspora is the relationships we have…do  you wonder why there are many African men and women at a very old age who are either divorced,separated or have never had a wife or a husband?In my opinion…We have two categories of  relationships in diaspora…one relationship is a relationship that you find your spouse here and the other relationship is you bring your spouse from your motherland.Having met your spouse here..means that your spouse either has settled here or is planning to settle here…this relationship can be abit unbalanced because its difficult for both spouses to know if its genuine or not.One of you could be having some interests in diaspora and could take this as an advantage…its so dissappointing to have met someone whom you thought you would spend your entire life together but only to realize later on that she/he had a hidden agenda.

You end up spending years and years together working day and night  and suddenly its quits….time flies so fast here and by the time you realize …its too late for you to compensate the time lost and get another spouse…. thats why you see many men and women single in diaspora….

As for those who brought there spouses from Home,the problem they face is when he or she arrives here,she meets friends  who are very good advisers….”Just get your papers and then you live him” or “Just get your papers and live her”.Yes one can manage by himself or herself but I still believe  its easier if you are two people living together in a relationship.Most of these advisers are single or divorced and before you listen to them check their background before you make any stupid decision….there is no perfect relationship in life… so dont fool yourself and stick to your relationship!!!!……butdoisay…

Clay Onyango